I Need A Hobby

Lately, I have been feeling pretty dull.  When I’m in conversation with someone, I have little to talk about besides 1) my son or 2) my work.  Not to diminish the value of those two things, but I wish there was a little bit more that made me interesting.

I think this time of year amplifies one’s busy-ness (or, to be more specific, lack thereof).  The holiday excitement and activities are over, the weather isn’t great, and we’re just waiting for the arrival of the active summer season for camping & outdoor activities.  Being relegated to the indoors makes it easy to become an evening couch potato & waste too much time on the internet or TV.  It’s pretty easy to become dull & boring right here in the middle of February.

Don’t get me wrong, I certainly get a lot of joy out of what I do for my work & family!  I LOVE menu planning, grocery shopping, and cooking.  My newest obsession is bread-baking.  I am proud of serving my family and I enjoy sweet time with my husband & son.  However, I think I’ve lost perspective on what *I* like to do.  Things not for anyone else’s benefit or enjoyment – just mine.  I need to figure out what brings me joy, fulfillment, and how to express who I am as a uniquely created individual.

When I first started realizing the importance of taking time exclusively for myself after having my son, I certainly enjoyed it.  I checked out books from the library and sat outside in my sunny backyard with a glass of wine and enjoyed the peace.  I went and got my nails done, or my hair done, or just went shopping by myself.  Now, I think I need to take the next step and figure out who I am, outside of a wife, mother, and employee.  I don’t just need to find things to do by myself, I need to find out what I enjoy doing for myself, and to use what creative gifts I  have been given.

Problem:  I have no idea where to start.

I am very thankful that I have a husband who is supportive of me in this, and who encourages me to take time by myself.  He offers to take full charge of Conlan for an afternoon so I can go out and “do” something.

“What shall I ‘do’?” I think to myself.  I don’t know.  If I’m going to spend time away, I want it to be meaningful & healthy for me.  I want it to be fulfilling, and to build me up to be a better woman when I come back home.

I think that’s a pretty tall order for a hobby.  If I figure something out, I’ll let you know.

In the meantime, I have compiled a list of things that I could do to fill in my free time (maybe I even enjoy them!), but I will not consider a hobby:

  • Exercise:  necessary – yes; enjoyable – no
  • Cooking:  love it, although my average nightly repertoire pretty much ranges from tacos to soup to casseroles; not much time in my weekday evenings to get very fancy
  • Crochet:  know how, but I’m just average; besides that, one can only use so many afghans before one’s house looks like an old lady’s
  • Scrapbooking:  pretty much accepted that I’m not good at it and, frankly, don’t even enjoy it that much
  • Reading:  enjoy it, but reading is a pretty passive activity so I don’t consider it to meet my hobby criteria

If anyone has any suggestions, I’m open!  🙂


5 thoughts on “I Need A Hobby

  1. Hmm..well I know you probably count hot yoga as working out but I find it to be really good for my self-esteem and mental health too. At any rate, I’m happy to help you explore. I’ll let you know if I think of anything else. Maybe your new thing is coming to Kirkland and walking the Lake WA waterfront with your pal Lacie with Starbucks in hand (of course)? 🙂

  2. Hi Kristina – You may not be ready for this, but I suggest you take up Yoga. Since you don’t like exercise, Yoga might be a bit more palatable. Here’s a link to a little bit I wrote about Yoga recently. If yoga doesn’t sound like your cup of tea, I suggest a night school class where you can do or learn something that will expand your horizons a little. Maybe a foreign language clasee. Here’s the link. It’s entitled “Thoughts on Yoga”: http://johnarcher11.wordpress.com/2011/02/20/thoughts-on-yoga/
    Good luck . . ./John

  3. Oooh…I do like yoga! Normally they offer free sessions at work but the times didn’t work for me this quarter. I forgot about that.

    Lacie…the waterfront/starbucks idea does sound like a fabulous personal growth opportunity. 🙂

  4. Kristina,
    I am totally enjoying your blogs. You write from the heart and your experiences remind me of me…many years ago when I was a young mother with small children. I took some classes in calligraphy, photography, tole painting, and genealogy and loved all of them. I also bought a small motorcycle but that didn’t end well so I wouldn’t recommend it! Keep writing and growing, you are doing a great job.

  5. Kristi,
    Try creating something. It’s a great way to spend time doing something you enjoy, and then having something to show for your time at the end. Whether it’s woodworking, photography, joining a music ensemble, painting, etc., it feels really good to have something to show for the time you’ve invested.

    Consider dad’s boat. Even though it’s never in the water (and we rightly tease him mercilessly), he loves working on it, because he can see the progress he’s making (even if we can’t). If you can have some sort of product to self-justify your “labor” and to track your growth (be it a skill growth, and spiritual growth, or a mental growth) I think you’ll find the hobby much more valuable.

    But seriously, that boat needs to get in the water.

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