Let’s be clear, I’m all for self-care. When I take care of myself or get some “me” time, I’m a better wife & mother. Finding time for myself isn’t easy; finding time for both parents to have independent time for renewal is twice the challenge. Still, it’s necessary.
No matter how involved our spouses are, moms tend to feel that they carry the primary responsibility for the children. Stay-at-home moms are on duty from the time they rise to the time they sleep, and they need a break. Working moms are at work all day, and then come home to their “second job.” They deserve a break, too! As moms, we feel pretty justified in asking for some time off.
Remembering that we need to prioritize ourselves = healthy
Forgetting that our husbands deserve the same = selfish
There’s a huge bonus for making sure our guys get to have their fun. They are happier! And when they are happier, everyone is happier.
Just like me, my husband gets cabin fever pretty quickly. Feeling stuck & bored really impacts his overall mood, which impacts all of our moods. He loves getting outside, particularly hiking & mountain climbing.
Does this mean that I’m a single parent on some weekends? Yes.
Does this mean he gets to spend time with other guys, get some exercise, and get to do something he absolutely loves? Yes again!
Family time is important, but so is individual time. Recognize that your spouse is a uniquely created individual who needs his own time to reflect, renew, and enjoy his passions. Sit down with your partner and ask what hobbies they wish they had more time for, and make a plan so they can rediscover them.
Hopefully you will find that sacrificing a bit of time for the sake of your husband’s enjoyment will increase the overall level of happiness & contentment in your home!