Happy Husband, Happy Home

Happy wife, happy life.  We’ve all heard it.  Let’s not be so selfish that we forget the guys need to have their fun, too!

Let’s be clear, I’m all for self-care.  When I take care of myself or get some “me” time, I’m a better wife & mother.  Finding time for myself isn’t easy; finding time for both parents to have independent time for renewal is twice the challenge.  Still, it’s necessary.

No matter how involved our spouses are, moms tend to feel that they carry the primary responsibility for the children.  Stay-at-home moms are on duty from the time they rise to the time they sleep, and they need a break.  Working moms are at work all day, and then come home to their “second job.”  They deserve a break, too!  As moms, we feel pretty justified in asking for some time off.

Remembering that we need to prioritize ourselves = healthy

Forgetting that our husbands deserve the same = selfish

There’s a huge bonus for making sure our guys get to have their fun.  They are happier!  And when they are happier, everyone is happier.

Just like me, my husband gets cabin fever pretty quickly.  Feeling stuck & bored really impacts his overall mood, which impacts all of our moods.  He loves getting outside, particularly hiking & mountain climbing.

Does this mean that I’m a single parent on some weekends?  Yes.

Does this mean he gets to spend time with other guys, get some exercise, and get to do something he absolutely loves?  Yes again!

Family time is important, but so is individual time.  Recognize that your spouse is a uniquely created individual who needs his own time to reflect, renew, and enjoy his passions.  Sit down with your partner and ask what hobbies they wish they had more time for, and make a plan so they can rediscover them.

Hopefully you will find that sacrificing a bit of time for the sake of your husband’s enjoyment will increase the overall level of happiness & contentment in your home!

Today’s post is part of “Works For Me Wednesdays,” tips to make your family’s life easier.  WFMW is hosted by Kristen at We Are THAT Family.


6 thoughts on “Happy Husband, Happy Home

  1. My husband and I were just talking about this today. I always feel a little jealous when he would rather spend his time off somewhere else and not with us. I really need to work on that! Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks! I think talking about it and agreeing in advance (and ALSO making sure that family time is on the calendar, too) helps with that. For example, if you think (to yourself) that tonight may be a lovely evening for a family walk after dinner, but he doesn’t know that so he heads out the door for a quick run, that leaves you (obviously) with a bit of resentment. If you agree ahead of time – “Honey, how about if we all take a walk tonight after dinner, and maybe on Wednesday I’ll put the kids to bed so you can go running” – it eases some of those feelings.

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