[Coming home is a 4-part series directed toward working moms who feel called to be at home but feel like they “have” to work, primarily due to finances. This is the final post in the series. Read Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3.]
You’ve been praying about it. You’ve been praying for it. You’ve been thoughtful about your reasons for coming home, and have a good picture of what life will be like when you get there.
You have really solidified the feeling that you were called to be home.
Now the rubber meets the road. It’s time to prepare for your home-coming!
1. Talk with your spouse. You’ve probably already done this. In fact, you should be doing it all along the way. But this time plan a purposeful, uninterrupted meeting to talk about how you can make this happen. Together. You need to be in agreement or it won’t work. Continue with the prayer.
2. Review your finances. Together. Take a hard look at where changes can be made, and decide what sacrifices you are willing to make. Do you need to focus on paying off some debts in order to reduce your monthly expenses? Do you need to adjust your lifestyle or discretionary spending? Do you need to revise or defer your dream of home ownership, or maybe downgrade your current house? I said it wouldn’t be easy. In fact, for some it might be downright painful. But you need to decide – together – that your sacrifices are worth the reward of you going home.
3. Talk about your expectations. Do you (or your spouse) need to work through personal or relational issues and emotions related to only having one income earner? What expectations does your spouse have of you as a full-time homemaker? Do they match up with your visions? Discuss.
4. Implement your plan. If you’re in a place where losing your income isn’t going to be a huge barrier to coming home, practice living on one income for a few months. If you need to work on improving your financial situation, do it. Make the sacrifices you agreed upon, and review your progress often. Remember that the choices you have made got you here, and the choices you are making will get you to your dream.
And there it is. No magic bullet, no waiting for miracles. Just prioritization, sacrifice, and parnership with your spouse. If you are called to be home, God will help get you there – but you need to show your willingness to make changes, too.
Readers, what other steps do women need to take? Any suggestions on communicating with your spouse about the process? What do you think has been the most difficult part of your own journey?