If I could choose one word to describe motherhood to a new or expectant mother, it would be this.  Constant.  While there are thousands of other wonderfully relevant adjectives to choose from I think this is the one that is never mentioned, least expected, and the hardest to adjust to.

Everyone expects to be tired.

To have more laundry.

To spend time feeding and changing the baby.

To rock the baby.

To wash bottles.

But babies nap a lot too, right?  So shouldn’t it stand to reason that you get a lot of breaks?  Yes.  And no.  Because when the baby is sleeping you’ll probably be pumping.  Or showering.  Or putting away laundry.  Or unloading the dishwasher {because you can’t do it when she is awake or else this happens}.


Everyone tells you to sleep when the baby sleeps or to do something for yourself to maintain your sanity.  But what they don’t understand is that, even when you do these things, you always have that little SCREAMING voice in your head saying “You should be cleaning!  You should be cooking!  You should be {__fill in the blank__}!  You know you’re going to have to make up for this laziness later!”

Mamas, I say this not to discourage you or scare you, but to prepare you.  Some women have it more together than others, but nobody has it ALL together.  The old cliche that “a woman’s work is never done” is not a cliche – it will become your truth.

Your kitchen will never be closed.  Your kid(s) will never not need you.  The hamper will never be empty.  The car will always need vacuuming.  The baby book will always need updating and the bills will always need paying.  The toys may be picked up, but never completely organized.  And even if you do manage to achieve ONE of these things, they will never all be done AT THE SAME TIME.  There will always be something to do.  Constantly.

So expect it, and when you feel like you NEVER get a break, feel validated that it’s actually true.  You won’t get a break – but you do need to take one.  And if you figure out how to ignore that voice in your head, you might even get to enjoy it!


2 thoughts on “Constant

  1. So true! It’s very good for new mamas (and daddies!) to understand this difficult blessing! I think the backdrop of parenthood is the perfect slate to fuel spiritual transformation. When we are weary from the constancy of our responsibilities as parents, God word remains true! He calls us to rejoice always (Phil.4:4), to have Christ’s peace rule in our hearts (Col. 3:15), to be thankful (Col. 3:15, 17). And, most importantly, when we feel like giving up, when we lose our patience with our constant little blessings, when we mess up, He tells us, ‘”My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weakness, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.’ (2 Cor. 12:9)

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