My Writing Process Blog Tour {Complete With Working Mom Fail!}

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Over a month ago, Rebecca from Mom’s So Called Life contacted me about participating in a Writing Process Blog Tour.  Bloggers write about their own personal writing process, and then introduce readers to three more bloggers who will do the same a week later.

I jumped on the invitation because I love reflecting on my mission and purpose – both of which are at the core of my writing process.  However, after I committed I quickly realized that spending the time to recruit additional bloggers to participate just wasn’t going to happen.  Between family commitments, allmomdoes posts, pre-scheduled Family. Work. Life. posts, and regular everyday family/work duties my schedule just couldn’t take any more.

Well, it probably could have but it would have come at the expense of other things.  Like sleep and my stress level.  And so I emailed Rebecca who was very understanding and invited me to participate anyway.  So here I am, and I take full responsibility for committing to something and not following through.  I’m learning along with everyone else that prioritization is key and sometimes you even have to say “no” to good and exciting things to leave room for the even better things.

So without further ado, here’s my writing process:

1.  What are you working on?

I’m not working on any big project right now.  That doesn’t mean I don’t have a couple of big projects stewing around in my head.  Because I do, but as evidenced above my time always seems shorter than I would like!  So right now what I’m focusing on is building my blog and focusing more specifically on working motherhood.  It started with a lot more personal content – and that’s not going away completely – but I’m being more intentional in my writing to make sure that the majority of my posts have a working motherhood focus.  Beyond my writing here, I’m always writing something for AllMomDoes – and right now I’m working some pretty cool stuff we’ll be doing with Money Saving Mom that will be coming up in a couple of weeks!

2.  How does your work differ from others of its genre?

This is one of the reasons I’m being more intentional in my writing.  While I do want Family. Work. Life. to be the blog of a real-life mother in the workforce {failures and all!}, I also want it to be a resource.  So many of the other blogs and sites I see related to working motherhood swing completely in one direction or the other – impersonal articles and resources of how to balance everything, or strictly more personal stories and reflections.  Neither is bad, but my personal goal is to blend the two.  I want to be a resource, but I also want to be real.

3.  Why do you write what you do?

I’ve started answering this question three times, and it hasn’t come out right yet.  I went back and looked at an old post I wrote, Why I Bother, and it’s still true today.  So read the answer there – I guess I got it right the first time!

The second reason I write is because up until I became a mother, I had never seen working motherhood done well.  I believed the stereotypes – that it was chaos and exhausting and awful and miserable and that the children of working mothers were hugely disadvantaged, unhappy, and confused.  I am thankful that immediately before I became a mom I had a supervisor who was a wonderful model of healthy, balanced, and joyful working motherhood.  I committed to myself that I would do the same – just in case there was another mother out there who needed to know that it could be done, and it could be done well.

4.  How does your writing process work?

A little bit of this, a little bit of that…sometimes I sit down and think, “I haven’t written anything in awhile, let’s come up with something.”  Other times something happens and I begin to mull it over and think, “That would be a great post!”  When I don’t have time to write something down immediately, I’ll at least write a draft title.  I kept a list of draft titles for awhile, until I started keeping a handwritten blogging calendar to give me some structure.  Otherwise I could write every day for a week and then nothing for a month – it helps me pace myself.  The blogging calendar I keep is usually outdated after the first week, but at least I had ideas written and a plan for writing.  The plan might get changed, but posts never get forgotten.  {Though please note that the calendar isn’t foolproof.  Right now it’s way past my bedtime but I was away for the weekend and this needs to post tomorrow, so…yeah.}

As far as the actual writing, by the time I sit and write things have usually been “written” in my head for awhile.  For that reason, I’m a first-draft writer for the most part.  I’ll go back and correct grammar points or edit sentences that seem a bit jumbled, but it’s rare that any piece I write gets a major revision.  If it needs it, it just never feels right.  I feel like if it’s not great the first time, it just needs to be scrapped and written again later when the words come.

And that, dear friends, is my Writing Process Blog Tour and the end of the broken chain {totally my fault}.  I’d encourage you to go check out Rebecca at Mom’s So Called Life – she’s relatively new to blogging and has some great thoughts and reflections over on her site.  She is a working mom to three (THREE!) and is learning to balance it all while still making time for her own wellness.  I think we could all learn a thing or two!  Did I mention she’s making this all work with THREE kids?

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‘Till next time…

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8 thoughts on “My Writing Process Blog Tour {Complete With Working Mom Fail!}

  1. I’m glad that you were able to realize that you were more over your head than you wanted to be and spoke to Rebecca(?) about it. That takes courage. Glad you were still able to do the blogging.

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  2. Your blog IS a resource AND an inspiration for working moms! Which is why I included you and your blog on the tour. Your blog is one I enjoy coming back to. Good work, momma! 🙂

  3. Isn’t saying, “no” lovely? It has been one of the hardest things I have ever learned to do. Even now it makes my heart beat too fast. But sometimes we have to say, “Thank you, but no thank you.”
    And I am a first draft writer myself. Just works for me!

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