No Guarantees


You know, this is a blog about working motherhood, so sometimes I think I should share more about the latest political issue or working-mom study.

But I don’t, and there are two reasons for that.

1)  I don’t have time to keep up with them all.

2)  That’s not why you come here.

While there might be some exceptions, I know most of you aren’t here to have your minds changed.  You’d find relief in the latest study that says kids of working moms turn out just fine, but you’re not going to quit your job and run home when the next one says that they don’t.

Because you know me.  I’m balanced like that.  I wouldn’t just share one side.

But wait, there’s a third reason.

3)  I don’t care whether you’re doing it right.

That’s right, ladies.  I don’t care.  And neither should you.  It doesn’t matter if you’re doing it right.  It matters that you’re doing it well.

Even if there was one (and only one) “right” way of doing things {which I’m not saying there is}, there is absolutely no guarantee that if you did that one thing, your kid would turn out perfectly.

That’s the thing about parenting in this fallen world.  No matter if we do things absolutely perfectly, there is no guarantee of the result.

Now I know the counterargument to that.  We buckle our seatbelts.  We lock our doors.  We minimize risk.

But we don’t eliminate risk.  We don’t install a seatbelt in the wagon and insist our kid wear a helmet when we’re pulling him around in it.

We can never eliminate risk.  We can’t play God, only God can do that.

Speaking of God, I know the “Train up a child…” proverb.  It’s good stuff.  It’s good wisdom.  But it is not a guarantee.

We have to relinquish control, hold tight to grace, and know that we’re doing this working motherhood thing to the best of our ability.  And that, working mamas, doesn’t mean doing it right.  It means doing it well.

I know that’s the real reason you’re here.  And I’m so glad you are.


6 thoughts on “No Guarantees

  1. You are so right! Working moms always seem to walk on the surface of our guilt because so many of us try to do things the “right” way, which seems to take away from our kids in a sense. I hope you don’t mind, but I’m definitely passing your article on! 🙂

  2. I completely agree, we can only do the best that we can as parents. Give our children all the love and support they need and steer them in a positive direction, thank you for sharing!

  3. Hi Kristina,
    Thanks for penning down what quite a number of us Moms feel. It’s heart rendering to know that one can relate to it.

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