Why Do You Work?

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Mamas, you need a reason.

You have to if you’re going to make it through the day-in and day-out of working motherhood.  You need a reason on those days it’s hard to drag yourself away from your kids and on the days that your job is tugging on your last thread of patience.

So today I want to hear about it.  I want to know – what’s your reason for working?

But here’s the catch – you can’t say “because I have to.”

I want you to dig deeper.

Because even if you do feel like you have to, I’m sure there’s another reason underneath that.

And I want to hear it.

Tell me why you work.  Tell me your purpose.  You can have purpose even if you don’t like your circumstances.

Because without purpose, it’s meaningless.  And it’s hard.

So dig deep.  Find yours.

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19 thoughts on “Why Do You Work?

  1. I work because I love my family and my husband very much. I enjoy what I do and am able to do it well. Taking time away from my son allows me to satisfy some personal needs for success and allows my husband to satisfy some unconventional dreams. Oh I have the guilt and I would give up my satisfaction of personal success for my family but that isn’t what my family needs right now and it works for us.

  2. I love my career, but like all working parents, I carry the guilt that time away creates. The joy I see in my son’s face when he’s at school (we have always referred to daycare as “school”) with his friends is incredible. I have watched him learn and grow, and this encourages me to know I’ve made the right decision. Because at the end of the day, I know that in addition to our unconditional love, the “things” our two income household will allow us to give our children will be a tremendous blessing. And that keeps me going on those more difficult days.
    It’s also really great to sit at my desk and eat my oatmeal while it’s hot, and drink a cup of coffee without holding it out of a toddler’s reach. 😉

    1. “It’s also really great to sit at my desk and eat my oatmeal while it’s hot, and drink a cup of coffee without holding it out of a toddler’s reach.” — SO SO TRUE!!! 🙂

  3. I work because I love what I do, but of course it has its challenges as well. I think the main aspects my career provides for me and my family are (1) an intellectual outlet, (2) a social outlet (interaction with colleagues), (3) a way to help others (meaningfulness), (4) a way to model for my children, and (5) a way to earn income and keep my foot in the workplace while we raise our children. I’ve been working to make my career more flexible over the years, so that I can be around with the kids after school (most days). That makes me feel better about it all!

  4. I wouldn’t know who I would be if I didn’t work. I worked full-time through college. Many times in my life I’ve worked two jobs – just to earn extra money or have something to do. I do work to contribute half of our family income and pay those pesky bills, but beyond that, I work to get out of the house. I love my daughter – more than anyone other than a mother could imagine – but I’m pretty sure we would kill each other if I was home with her day in and day out. I need my adult time, and she needs her preschool time. Being around your peers is so important for socialization and happiness – for the both of us!

  5. I work because I don’t want others to suffer like I did as a Working Mom. I want to share my strengths and experiences with other Working Moms so they can do a better job than I do. I want to be a change agent for the Working Mom lifestyle because Working Moms have SO much to give and shouldn’t be shunned because they are Working Mom! So I guess you’d call this passion.
    The juggling act is hard, no doubt. My children haven’t understood why I do what I do but with time I think it’s becoming more clear. Ya know, us Moms are always right in the end. So eventually they’ll learn the big picture. I just need to be patient with them & myself. Great post!

  6. Hi there!
    Just thought I’d let you know this gave me food for thought last week and inspiration for a post rather than a comment – so thanks!
    As for why I work? It’s part of who I am and I can’t imagine not working professionally in some capacity. I’m giving some thought to the right way to go about it/right fit with the life I want for me and my family, but I’m happier working than not – and as a happier person I’m a better parent.
    Great topic! I really enjoy your blog.

    1. Thank you! I saw your post; I’m so glad it got you thinking! It’s a tough one to tackle, isn’t it? Because even though the easy, straightforward answer REALLY IS “because I have to,” having a deeper answer makes it so much easier. Thanks for the kind shout-out and comment!

  7. LOVE this question: I work because when I was younger my parents divorced and this wonderful wealthy lifestyle I had was diminished to nothing. I vowed that no one would ever control my destiny again. Not that I think my husband will leave me but what if he got sick? What if he passed tragically? What if God forbid we did divorce? I just wanted to always have my independence and KNOW I could always take care of myself and my kids because I controlled my destiny. There are so many other reasons but that is what I always come back to in the end. Is that bad? 😉

      1. Well on the positive side I love my job as well. 🙂 Great blog btw, you have a new follower. 🙂 Have a great week!

        Kim

  8. First, I’d like to say hello, Kristina! I recently discovered your blog, and I’m loving it! Your posts are on-topic according to what you say your site is about, and I enjoy your style of writing. Your posts are helpful, inspirational and useful. Thanks for a good quality blog!
    I work so my kids and I do not have to live in a cardboard box under the freeway. I work so I can give myself and my children a decent life, and I work HARD to continue to improve our quality of life.
    I don’t have working mom guilt because I know my kids understand our situation. However, I do have working mom angst! I wish I could be there for my kids more instead of at work.

  9. I work because I want to. I want to get out of the house, use my brain and talk with adults. I work because I don’t want to stay home all day and take care of my child. I love my daughter and the time I have with her, but I like my time too.

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