The Problem With Balance…

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The term “work/life” balance is not my fave; I know it’s not exactly well-loved by many other people who talk about the delicate management of competing priorities either.  But when someone uses the term, everyone knows what they’re talking about, so until something else comes along that seems to perfectly describe the dance we all do, “balance” it is around here.

But the problem with balance…or integration…or harmony…or contentment…or sanity…{or whatever you want to call it}…is that it’s never going to come by accident.  We’ll never be going about our busy lives and one day wake up and say, “Well, look at that.  Things finally fell into place and I’ve got this under control.”

No, it takes effort.  It takes intentionality.  And it takes the most precious commodity of them all these days – time.

Yes, it takes time and purposeful effort to jump out of the fray, slow down from your break-neck speed, and reflect, evaluate, plan, and overcome the imbalance.

Balance won’t just happen.  You need self-awareness and enough breathing space to really take the time to pinpoint the true sources of your struggle and to identify, develop, and implement solutions.  You can’t train for the marathon while running it.

It’s not easy, mama, but it’s the only way.  Slow down for a minute to really dig in, think about your balance (or lack thereof), and put your finger on the source(s) of your discontent.  Once you know that, you can work on bringing the rest of your life back into the alignment you crave.

Over the next few weeks, on Wednesdays, I’ll be giving you some ideas of how you can take some unhurried time and start to identify your true trouble areas.  But maybe some of you already know what they are – when you really take the time to think about it, what is your biggest struggle with maintaining your sanity as a working mom?

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14 thoughts on “The Problem With Balance…

  1. I love it! Looking forward to your Wednesday tips. I’ve found that just taking a few minutes each day to “zone out” (even if it’s not “true” meditation) has helped me. Appreciate the sun shining on my face, or hearing my kids playing happily in their room. We should all allow ourselves more quiet reflective time like this as an antidote to our busy lives.

    1. So true. Was just talking about this with some friends last night. But I’m SOOOO not good at it. I feel like even my “reflective time” has to be productive and purposeful and if it’s not, I feel like it’s wasted. I seriously need to work on that!

  2. My biggest hurdle is TIME. I am sure we all get 24 hours in a day, but I need about 2400 to make sure each day is going ok… My favorite part in this piece is “You can’t train for the marathon while running it” That is right! I will keep it in mind. Thank you for this affirmative post!

  3. I need that life wisdom. One of the challenge I found is “It’s hard to being present.” meaning how to focus on work while you’re away from home and how to enjoy your time at home without thinking about work.

  4. Very true. it takes a lot of work and a lot of thought to figure out how to make it all work. I think you have to be realistic about our limitations and we have to let some things go.

  5. I continually struggle with finding balance between work, family and home responsibilities. There never seems to be enough TIME and I never seem to have enough energy to do all of the things that I perceive need to be done. I tend to put so much pressure on myself to do everything perfectly, and I feel like I’m failing when things are out of balance. I am looking forward to your posts!

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